Monthly Archives: November 2011

Sexual Education: Teens Ask the Darnedest Questions


Posted on November 30, 2011 by

I speak about Planned Parenthood and the services we offer whenever I have the opportunity. Whether I’m in the grocery checkout line talking about cheap birth control pills to the uninsured cashier or giving impromptu pregnancy options counseling to an esthetician, I’m happy to do it. I am haunted by accounts like Margaret Sanger’s Awakening and Revolt, which reminds me what life continues to be like for women of the world who cannot access family planning services: information is power and power is freedom.

Recently I was asked by a teacher to volunteer at her school’s “career day.” I expected that I would discuss my job roles and duties and spend minimal time discussing the organization I work for. What I found, however, was a school that leapt at the chance for me to discuss age-appropriate, medically accurate reproductive health information with their middle schoolers. I was told that many were likely already having sex and that an elementary schooler had brought condoms to school the week before. The parents had signed waivers allowing the school to discuss sexual health topics with them, so I was asked to answer the questions that the kids had about sex! They divided the groups into “girls” and “boys.”

Three hours and one hundred middle schoolers later, I was completely exhausted. I’d managed to talk about my job role for about three minutes before it was buried below an avalanche of compelling and sometimes frightening sex-related questions. I was able to respond to almost all of them, but referred them to their teachers for those I felt were a bit tricky (e.g., “What does it mean when someone drops the soap in prison?”). As a disclaimer, please note that my entire talk was themed on preventing teen sex, and abstinence was thoroughly encouraged.

These kids had serious questions about their bodies, each other’s bodies, and SEX. There are a lot of adults out there giving their opinions about what kids should and shouldn’t know about the birds and the bees, but I’m here to tell you: they already know more than you’re comfortable with!

Here, I give you highlights from questions in the classroom:

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3 Things Everyone Can Do to Prevent HIV


Posted on November 29, 2011 by

Although HIV has been a part of our lives for over 25 years, people in this country are still getting infected at about the same rate they have been for several years.  Many people still have misinformation about the virus or don’t feel they are at risk. Here are a few things everyone can do:

•    Encourage people to get tested and get tested yourself
Planned Parenthood of Southwest & Central Florida offers 3 types of HIV testing:  a rapid test (results in 20 minutes), blood draw sent to a local lab (results in 2-3 days) or the free state test (results in about 3 weeks).

•    Learn the facts about HIV so you can educate yourself and others
There are still many myths about how HIV is spread, who’s at risk, and how it’s prevented.

•    Promote condom use
Many people worry more about becoming pregnant than becoming infected with a STI. If they or their partner are using contraception, they may believe they have taken care of all their reproductive needs. If they have a same sex partner or are past childbearing years, they may figure they have nothing to worry about.

Out of all the STIs, HIV is the most difficult to catch, and it has a dramatic impact on someone’s life as well as the lives of those who love them. Despite fears of many to the contrary, a positive HIV test isn’t a death sentence; with medical attention, proper medication, and taking control of their health, someone can live a long and healthy life with HIV.

The best medication for HIV, though? Not getting the virus at all. Let’s all do our part to reduce the spread of HIV.

For the most current information on the virus, check out the CDC website on HIV.

For living with HIV, read this CDC brochure on HIV; visit MyHIVLife for tips on living a life with HIV; as well as Avert, the international HIV & AIDS charity, to answer common questions about living with HIV.

Your Guide to Alternative Menstrual Products (Because Tampons and Pads Can Be a Total Bummer)


Posted on November 28, 2011 by

Walk down a “feminine products” aisle in any drug store and you will almost always see shelf after shelf of the same two things: tampons and pads. Tampons with applicators, without applicators, with perfume; pads, with or without wings, plastic sticky mini-diapers that smell like chemicals, or worse, perfume. These two products have probably been a staple of your life at least once a month for a while now, and if you’re like most of the women I know, you don’t like them very much.

Tampons can be uncomfortable and can leak, and if you try to avoid leaks by using a more absorbent one then you risk having to pull an abrasive tampon out of a dry vagina – it’s not only terribly uncomfortable but can put you at increased risk of infection and disease.  Tampons, especially super-absorbent tampons, can absorb too much fluid, drying out the vagina and increasing the possibility of micro-tears upon removal or insertion of the next tampon.  These tears can provide a window for the bacteria Staphylococcus Aureus, which is commonly present on our skin and can get pushed into the vagina during tampon insertion, to get into our system causing Toxic Shock Syndrome.  TSS is “a severe disease that involves fever, shock, and problems with the function of several body organs…[it] may be deadly in up to 50% of cases.

Pads are not any fun either; they feel diaper-like and crinkle and irritate delicate skin that was not meant to have wet plastic rubbing against it.  Not to mention that environmentally, disposable tampons and pads are a disaster waiting to happen.  So much extra waste for landfills! So what’s a girl to do? The good news is there are a lot of other options about there that are easier to use, more comfortable, environmentally friendly, and cheaper.

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This Week In: Abortion


Posted on November 24, 2011 by

● The Guttmacher Institute has published a fact sheet on induced abortion in the US. It’s a quick read and it disproves a lot of stereotypes on who has abortions.

Here’s the info:

  • Only 18% of women obtaining abortions are teenagers, and women in their 20s account for more than half of all abortions.
  • Approximately 61% of abortions are obtained by women who are already parents to one or more children.
  • Non-Hispanic white women have the most abortions, accounting for about 36%; then non-Hispanic black women at 30%; Hispanic women at 25%; and women of other races at 9%.

Also, abortion has been proven as very safe, with less than 0.3% of patients experiencing a complication that requires hospitalization, but “the risk of death associated with abortion increases with the length of pregnancy, from one death for every one million abortions at or before eight weeks to one per 29,000 at 16–20 weeks—and one per 11,000 at 21 or more weeks.”  Think about that the next time someone tries to pass abortion restrictions like waiting periods that make it hard for women to get to clinics when they want an abortion.

Anti-abortion forces are attempting to pass a personhood amendment in Colorado.  No, you haven’t somehow time traveled to 2008.  They are pushing the issue again after it failed in 2008 and 2010.  They say this time it’s different, because it will act to “protect every child, no matter their size, level of development, gender, age or race.” That sounds like a pretty broad, vague goal to me.  It will still work to give a zygote full legal rights and potentially make birth control, IVF, and even miscarriages illegal.  The people of Colorado already beat this twice, so if I were on the Personhood campaign, I’d be worried.

Personhood Amendment supporters in California are passing around a petition to get such an amendment on the ballot for 2012.  Considering that this failed in conservative Mississippi, if this passes in California of all places, I will eat my hat. As a bonus, “The Legislative Analyst’s Office and Department of Finance said if voters adopted the initiative, the potential cost to the state could be in the tens of millions of dollars annually to establish due process and equal protection for “zygotes, embryos, and fetuses.” California voters will just love that.

● And my favorite pet peeve is the news again: Conscience clauses. Nurses in New Jersey are suing the hospital they work at for requiring them to, you know, take care of patients. But these aren’t just any patients, they are patients who are having abortions. The nurses are arguing they shouldn’t have to take care of women they find immoral, because it goes against their beliefs.  Look, I’m an omnivore now but for a while, I was vegan.  I found (still kinda do, actually) eating factory farmed meat to be cruel and wrong.  If I had gotten a job at McDonalds and told them, “Look, I will do any task here but I won’t sell hamburgers because I think it’s wrong for these people to eat meat,” I would have been fired for not doing my job.  When you are a nurse, your job is to take care of your patients.  If someone comes in who was injured while committing a robbery, you take care of them even though you think theft is wrong; you also can’t turn someone away from a hospital because you think they are immoral.  The only reason the complaint about abortion is being considered by the courts is because it is a religious complaint.  I’m looking forward to the outcome of this lawsuit, because I know it will set a precedent for future cases – and there will be similar cases.  Hospital patients deserve care and respect, and should not be at risk for receiving less quality care because they are having a routine and common medical procedure like abortion.

Florida 2012: Previewing the Legislative Session


Posted on November 23, 2011 by

This year, Florida’s Legislative session begins earlier than usual: it begins on January 10 instead of the first week in March.  This is because the Legislature must spend time figuring out the new district lines for Congressional and legislative districts (these lines are reconfigured every 10 years to reflect population changes).

But for Planned Parenthood and all of us that believe in women’s access to health care at affordable prices, it means we must start meeting with state representatives right now to urge them to stop the “war on women” that occurred in Tallahassee last year.  An unprecedented number of anti-choice bills were introduced in 2011.  In a time of incredible economic distress and job loss, why the legislators spent so much time to limit women’s access to health care is difficult to fathom.

So far, two anti-choice bills have been filed for the 2012 session and we are holding our breath to see what else they’ve got up their sleeves.

We hope that anyone wishing to help us advocate for women’s health will sign up at www.myplannedparenthood.org or join our e-mail list by using the contact box in the sidebar.

Stand up for and stand with Planned Parenthood today!

Target Women with Sarah Haskins


Posted on November 22, 2011 by

If you haven’t yet seen Target Women with Sarah Haskins, you’re in for a treat. Sarah and her team at Current TV explore the ridiculous, hilarious and often insulting content of pop culture/television advertisements in a collage of clips and clever critiques.

I stopped watching television about five years ago, and now it’s hard to even be around one while it’s on. To me, it’s not the television shows that get me nauseated, it’s the endless barrage of sexist/classist/racist commercials that are cleverly crafted to seep into your brain.

While I enjoy all of Sarah’s episodes, check out this knee-slapper on birth control:

Will this change the way you see advertisements too?

Transgender Day of Remembrance


Posted on November 21, 2011 by

Today is a guest post from one of the other members of our affiliate who also manages a gender studies department at a local university.

As many of you may already know, yesterday marked the 13th Transgender Day of Remembrance. For those of you who hadn’t heard of it before, this day exists to mark the loss of all of the people who’ve died during the past year as a result of violence based on bias against transgender people.

It first came about because of Gwendolyn Ann Smith, a transgender graphic designer, columnist, and activist, wanted to memorialize the death of Rita Hester in Allston, Massachusetts in 1998. She created the project Remembering Our Dead in 1999, marking the anniversary of Rita’s murder with a candlelight vigil. Rita’s murder is still unsolved.

In the 13 years that this day has been commemorated, we’ve remembered 328 people who were killed within the US because they were trans*. We’ve remembered 313 people who lived outside of the US who were killed because they were trans*. We’ve remembered the countless others whose deaths haven’t been reported, where the circumstances of their deaths aren’t known, who took their own lives because of the transphobic violence they faced, and whose names are unknown to us.

Remembering people whom we’ve never met is important, because for those of us who didn’t know them, it can be too easy for tragedies to get reduced to numbers. But knowing their names and seeing their faces means that we acknowledge how their deaths – deaths that are often minimized, trivialized or ignored by the mainstream media – affect us all.

Even if this is the first time you’ve heard any of their names, their deaths do affect each one of us. Every time someone is murdered or attacked because of who they are, we’re losing a part of our community to hatred and intolerance.

The Day of Remembrance is about the people who are no longer with us because of this violence. While more states, and even the IRS, are becoming more accepting of transgender individuals, the problem of violence is far from solved. Today, and going forward, it’s up to the rest of us to keep working for a world where that violence has no home.

Additional Day of Remembrance projects:
DOR Art Vigil: http://tdor.weebly.com/gallery-2010.html
DOR Webcomics project: http://tdor.boolean-union.com

Fun Friday: Weight a Minute


Posted on November 18, 2011 by

Happy Friday! Today, we’re sharing this awesome video from Bedsider. Does the pill really make you gain weight? Watch and find out!

(On a serious note? This Sunday is the Transgender Day of Remembrance. We’ll be talking about it on Monday. If you’d like to observe it, find out if there are any events near you.)

This Week In: Sexism


Posted on November 17, 2011 by

Sexual harassment has been highlighted in the media lately and, though I’m glad awareness seems to be increasing, the messages being put out are not great for women.

 ● Katie Roiphe at the New York Times writes an article dismissing sexual harassment as something too “vague, subjective, slippery” to care about, and says “Show me a smart, competent young professional woman who is utterly derailed by a verbal unwanted sexual advance or an inappropriate comment about her appearance, and I will show you a rare spotted owl.”  I don’t know about you, but when I’ve been sexually harassed I was never derailed but I was hurt, embarrassed, nauseated and angry.  And it was still harassment.

 ● Nonprofit research organization American Association of University Women found in a research study that “nearly half” of 7th to 12th graders out of a representative group of 1,965 students have experienced sexual harassment in the last school year. Girls were more likely than boys to have experienced physical sexual harassment, and female students reported that the harassment that bothered them the most were unwelcome sexual comments.  Boys stated that the harassment that had the “worst effect” on them was being called gay.

 ● J. Bryan Lowder at XXfactor weighed in on the above study and missed the point entirely, referring to the harassment as “youthful mistakes” made out of “adolescent ignorance,” and stating that writing on Facebook that a girl is a “whore” [is not] equivalent to molesting her at a party.” 

Okay, this sounds a lot like the old “don’t you have more important things to worry about?” derail.  The problem here is that when someone finds it necessary to point out that a particular type of harassment is not as severe as other kinds, they – whether they mean to or not – sound dismissive of said harassment.  And this dismissal would be a mistake because it’s not just the level of harassment that we should consider, it’s the cause.  Minor and severe harassment or assault are manifestations of the same internalized cultural beliefs.  Calling a boy gay in a derogatory manner and beating up a gay kid come from the same belief that being gay is wrong.  Grabbing girls in the hallways at school and assaulting them at a party come from the same belief that girls exist as sex objects that don’t deserve bodily autonomy.  And if we dismiss school harassment as youthful immaturity we miss a chance to teach our kids better values before their behavior becomes even more harmful to others.

 ● And in case you missed it, Sady Doyle of the excellent blog Tiger Beatdown recently started a Twitter hashtag called #mencallmethings to illustrate the type of gendered abuse women bloggers receive on the internet.  Trigger warning for lots of sexist comments, rape and assault threats, and foul language.  It’s an interesting window into the types of comments women writers on the internet have to deal with on a regular basis.