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I work with abortion. I will not apologize.


Posted on April 30, 2013 by

abortion-law-sizeLast week I attended an incredible workshop with my colleagues, where we talked about the emotional side of abortion work. About ten of us, all working in different roles within our affiliate, shared with each other how we cope with the stigmatized nature of our work, and how we deal with protesters both in our communities and in our personal lives (friends, family, etc.). I learned so much about the strength, courage, and absolute commitment to helping women that my colleagues and I share. It was really emotional and absolutely inspiring to recognize the commitment we have to this work. I am so proud to be a part of in the struggle of women; in the herstory of women.

Having said that, it was ironic that a few days later I became involved in a confrontation about my work with a distant relative through, of all places, Facebook. While I honor and love this family member, and have incredibly fond memories of our time together in my childhood, we just don’t agree politically or socially now that I’m an adult. Specifically, when it comes to social issues and the issue of a woman’s right to decide. So, I posted something about an interview with anti-choice protesters, and was issued a moral citation via comment box.

A few days later he sent me an email about the better choice being adoption. I now felt like I needed to explain myself without apologizing or igniting personal defenses. I do not want to fight with family about the work I do. And I will not apologize. Having spent time discussing such awkward and uncomfortable interactions with family a few days before at the workshop, I felt like I was prepared to respond. Awkward? Yes. Impossible? No. In summary:

…I’ve been working one-on-one with women who choose abortion for the past 5 years. I’ve met with hundreds and hundreds, perhaps thousands of women in my office, and my beliefs about choice stem from listening to them and learning their stories. For many, adoption is an excellent choice, and I whole-heartedly support women who choose that route. I am most excited when I meet with a woman who has planned her pregnancy, and is ecstatic when the pregnancy test comes back positive. There is so much joy to share in life.

Though the organization I work for only sees about 10% of clients for abortion services, I travel to our different locations and work predominantly with those clients. I do family planning education and give emotional support to women who are choosing abortion. I feel I am an angel for so many of the women I see, who are ashamed, afraid, stigmatized, guilt-ridden and desperate. I accept them, I accept their choice, and I honor them as human beings trying to do the best they can for themselves, their families, and their futures.

Having said that, I speak with each and every single woman who is considering abortion about adoption. That is a requirement; we talk with women about adoption and how to continue their pregnancies for parenthood, along with abortion education. Over and over and over again, when I talk with women about adoption, many give the same response: there is no way they could spend 9 months becoming emotionally attached to their pregnancy and give it away. The guilt and resentment they would feel knowing they had a child in the world that they had “abandoned” is a worse choice for them than to prevent the pregnancy from continuing. These are their words, not mine. For others, adoption is an opportunity to give their child to a family who is ready and able to provide a quality life for their child. Every woman’s view is valid.

In many cases over the years, I have helped women choose to continue their pregnancies. I support their choice, regardless of the outcome. It is their body, their life, not mine…. Having said that, our perspectives on this issue are different, but I respect your opinion, as your beliefs are just as valid as mine.

This line of work is both incredibly challenging and incredibly rewarding. Our greatest hope and mission is for all children to be wanted children, and for the need for abortion to no longer exist. However, we do not currently live in a world where this is possible, and abortion is a safe option that 1/3 of U.S. women make in their lifetime. I emphasize education and prevention. I will not apologize.

 

Retro STI Posters: Beware of Prostitution!


Posted on April 18, 2013 by

While browsing the net recently I ran across a barrage of anti-prostitution advertisements produced by the American Social Hygiene Association, an organization that sought to reduce venereal diseases (AKA sexually transmitted infections), reduce prostitution, and educate people about sex. These advertisements were produced in the early part of the 20th century, and were targeted at men, specifically in the military. They seem to frame women as infected succubus’s, sure to tempt pure young men into bed so they can spread their venereal diseases and ruin lives. Certainly there is no reference to how the women contract it (um, from the males they sleep with); it’s almost like prostitutes are dirty temptresses born infectious. Though I support the reduction of sexually transmitted infections (hello, condoms), these advertisements are obnoxiously one-sided.

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Happy Endometriosis Awareness Month!


Posted on March 26, 2013 by

endoMarch is Endometriosis Awareness Month, and as such, we’re sharing some information about the disease and what you can do to manage it if you find yourself symptomatic or diagnosed. Endometriosis is a common disease that can lead to infertility. It can be managed with hormonal birth control – but only if women are aware of the disease and have access to good health care.

Endometriosis affects 5.5 million women in North America and is most diagnosed in women in their 30s or 40s. It is a leading cause of infertility in women. Hormonal birth control is a treatment for the pelvic pain that accompanies endometriosis and may help prevent long-term damage to the reproductive system.

Other symptoms can include intestinal pain, spotting or bleeding between periods, pain during sex, and in some cases, infertility.

Find out more about this disease by reading an excellent post about it by E.G. Hannah!

And as always, we care. No matter what.

 

Pledge-a-Picketer: Show Them We’re Here, No Matter What!


Posted on March 14, 2013 by

If you’ve been to a Planned Parenthood health center, it’s likely that you’ve crossed paths with protesters. While the frequency and duration of the protests varies from health center to health center, many patients find them to be very disrespectful and irritating. Further, staff at many affiliates across the country deal with harassment, including hate-mail, harassing phone calls, and in some cases, protesters have picketed outside the personal homes of our doctors and administrators. When I see them, I tend to look through them. I do not instigate interaction, I just take it in stride. We’re Planned Parenthood, the leading provider of reproductive health care in the country: not everyone agrees with unrestricted access to affordable services. I get it, and while I don’t agree with the protesters’ sentiments, it does not dissuade me from donning my nametag and providing quality care every week.

However, there are some folks out there who are sick and tired of the harassment, and they’ve come up with a very clever campaign to counter the intentions of those picketing demagogues.

picketerA friend of mine works for Planned Parenthood of Rocky Mountains, and they’ve initiated a “Pledge-a-Picketer” event, in which people can donate to the organization by “sponsoring” a picketer. Each time a donation is made, a yellow ribbon is tied outside to show the protesters just how much money they’re raising by being there. The hope, of course, would be to raise awareness about the cruelty and harassment our patients and staff encounter every day as they attempt to conduct things like pap smears, picking up birth control, and conducting safe and legal abortions.

Genious, I say! Genious! Further, this sponsorship campaign has made its way to Reddit, and is gaining speed and momentum. You too can donate to this campaign, and show the protesters that we’re here, and we’re not going anywhere (click on donate button on right sidebar).

Have you dealt with protesters outside one of our Health Centers? Would you donate to this cause?

The Self-Cleaning Vagina – Discharging the Myths of Discharge


Posted on March 11, 2013 by

Today we are recycling one of our most popular posts. Read on and see why . . . 

botticelli-venus-400x400Recently, I asked the staff at one of our health centers for a story that highlighted a myth about vaginas. They cited a recent story in which a patient came in complaining of vaginal discharge and, once diagnosed with a yeast infection, was convinced it was because she worked in a bakery. Yeast … around you … yes, we get the idea. But no, unless one places a baked good into the vagina, the chances the infection came from a yeasty treat are null and void.

We might chuckle a little at the sticker shock of such seemingly silly logic, but we realize the societal truth that vaginal discharge, along with many other reproductive health issues, is not usually a hot topic in people’s everyday lives. There is a lot of shame and embarrassment surrounding vaginal care, so let me clear a few things up.

Having worked for Planned Parenthood for close to four years, here are a few things I wish I could scream from the rooftops for every vagina-carrying human to hear:

1. Douching is bad for you and can cause the symptoms you’re trying to avoid!

We’ve all seen the boxes of Summer’s Eve tucked between the maxi-pads and pregnancy tests on our local pharmacy shelves. I’ve even seen advertisements that suggest vaginal douching will give a woman the confidence she needs to ask for a raise at work (what the hell?) I’ve heard women say their mothers douched, so they do it themselves. They’ve heard it makes them clean, or that it makes them smell good (with blatant implication that the natural odor is foul). Some do it every so often, while others integrate it into their sexual health routine more frequently. Regardless of the frequency of douching, please do yourself a favor and STOP! Douching, specifically with any agents that contain a fragrance, can drastically alter the natural balance of vaginal flora and acidity needed to self-regulate. Women who douche frequently are more susceptible to vaginal irritation, bacterial vaginosis, STIs, yeast infection or Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID). Same can be true for scented soaps and tampons … your temple smells fine the way it is, keep the perfumes outta there!

(**In some rare instances a medical professional may advise douching with water or other banal substance, in which case err on the side of your trusted health care advisor).

2. Healthy vaginas do not smell like fish or any other aquatic sea life!

There is a cultural myth that vaginas smell bad, specifically “fishy.” This myth has been further circulated within our society by some pretty off-color jokes (a blind man and a fish market…) which, while funny to those telling it, can often lead to reinforcing insecurities within women about their bodies. In a culture as dually sexually repressed and exploited as ours, it’s no wonder that this notion reigns “true” in the public arena. I can’t think of anyone else beside my P.P. family who would go toe to toe to argue the damaging ramifications of such a sexist joke as the punch line is delivered, so how else do we stop these dangerous lies from spreading? My thought is: education.

3. Vaginas are independent: When left alone they can clean and manage themselves just fine! 

The Vagina, as stated, is a self-sustaining organ that naturally produces bacteria and acids that cleans itself. It also produces a clear or whitish, generally odorless (sometimes acidic), itchless discharge that can increase and decrease in quantity as the menstrual cycle (28 days) changes. If you’re on a hormonal birth control method, your discharge may differ when on it from your non-hormonal cycles, as ovulation (releasing of the egg from the ovary) may increase discharge for a few days. Sexual arousal can also increase vaginal discharge, as your vagina naturally lubricates (though adding a fragrance-free water-based lubricant can help prevent tearing of condoms).

4. At the end of 6-8 hours, take out your tampon!

Too often a woman will come into our health centers complaining about a terrible vaginal odor, only to have the clinician remove days, weeks, or even months old tampon remnants. We call these “impacted tampons,” and they have the potential for some serious consequences, such as incredible odor (we sometimes have to close down the exam room for the day afterward), infection (bacterial vaginosis or pelvic inflammatory disease), toxic shock, or even death! It is so critical to take your tampons out within the time suggested for use on the package label, but also easy to ignore. Here’s a tip: confirm all tampons are out at the end of your period by placing your finger inside your canal and checking!

5. If your vagina smells abnormal, has colored or thick discharge, itches, or is generally out of the norm, head into Planned Parenthood!

So many times we see clients who incorrectly self-diagnose vaginal symptoms, and end up further irritating their condition, or wasting time and money on incorrect treatments. If I had a dollar for every time over-the-counter yeast medication was used on bacterial vaginosis, I’d create a P.S.A. about this topic and launch it during the Super Bowl. Delaying proper treatment of vaginal infections or sexually transmitted infections does not improve your health or save you money. Contrary, it can worsen temporary symptoms or cause irreversible damage to reproductive organs. Often clinicians can write a prescription that has multiple refills, if you are a person with chronic susceptibility to a specific infection, so you don’t have to pay for every visit to the health center (this rule is very specific to your condition, your health history, and the medical discretion of the clinician).

Here are some helpful links to some info about common vaginal infections, and as always, WE’RE HERE FOR YOU!

Half the Sky: The Facebook Game for Charity


Posted on February 28, 2013 by

Half the Sky GameHow exciting! Nicholas Kristof and Sheryl Wu Dunn, creators of the renowned book Half the Sky have joined forces with several major chartable organizations, including the Ford Foundation, and developed a new Facebook App game that lets users help women and girls in need around the world by playing games that actually contribute to charities.

By unlocking different parts of the game, users are able to activate real life charity contributions that mirror the game. In the 21st century, we are becoming increasingly charitable and aware of our global connectedness. I am excited about this game, and its opportunity to educate people about the various difficulties women and girls experience in different parts of the world. What a clever way to serve others while we serve ourselves – I mean, it’s playing a video game for charity! As our world and our technologies change, a whole new spectrum of opportunities to give and connect with our sisters and brothers around the globe will become possible.

What do you think about this new style of giving?

The Female Condom: One Step Forward for Feminism, One Step Back for Pleasure


Posted on February 19, 2013 by

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For years I have been distributing Female Condoms (also known as FC) throughout our health centers, and while I understand they are about 95% effective at preventing pregnancy if used properly every time, I’d never used one myself. I’ve pulled them out of their packaging, I’ve touched them, squeezed them, and demonstrated how they work using a model. The Feronia Project has advocated for its ability to empower females to take charge by using the FC, but in my vagina…huh?

So, in the spirit of Valentine ’s Day romance, my partner and I decided to pop in a FC and take it for a spin. I’d used the Nuva Ring in the past, so I was prepared for the way it might feel to have a flexible plastic ring inside my vagina during sex, but was unprepared for how it felt to have that ring connected to a plastic baggie, connected to a second ring that remained around the vulva. In a word: ouch.

For me, the female condom was extremely uncomfortable and problematic. Though an excessive amount of lube was used, it didn’t change the fact that I felt like it would tear at any moment, and I had to hold it in place externally so that it didn’t slip inside of me. The external ring that holds the FC open around the vaginal opening was extremely uncomfortable to me, pinching and rubbing hard against my very sensitive labia. Agh!

For him, it was very uncomfortable as well. I asked him to rate it like a homework assignment, and he gave it a full “C.” He was wary of it coming out, and the plastic baggie sound/feel was hardly arousing. So, for us, the male condom wins.

We lasted a full minute before we had to take it out and replace it with a male condom.  With proper communication, we were able to navigate the situation with ease and a little humor, without dampening the night’s appeal.

I support the idea of the female condom whole-heartedly! It’s important that females are able to have a barrier contraceptive method to protect them from sexually transmitted infections and pregnancy, just as males do. However, something a little softer, smoother, and less baggie-like might feel more appealing (for us anyway).

Don’t just take my word for it! Everybody is different. Every partnership is different. It’s most important that you find the best method for YOU! Readers, have YOU used a female condom?

Microaggressions: Racism in the 21st Century


Posted on February 14, 2013 by

(Editor’s Note – Happy Valentine’s Day! We’ll be back later this afternoon with gifts you could get your sweetheart any time of the year.)

Though blatant/explicit racism has been deemed “politically incorrect” in our society and is thus generally frowned upon, racism is deeply ingrained in our culture, and practiced (whether consciously or unconsciously) by all of us. Much of current racism/sexism/ethnocentricism now takes place via “microaggressions,” the subtle interactions that normalize the implicit hierarchal order of our society.

Microaggressive statements reiterate the dominant idea that the heterosexual, white, middle-class, capitalistic model is the universal “right way” to live and be, of which all variation is inferior (less than). Research suggests that “microaggressions” are the most harmful because they are often defended and cast off as “no big deal,” “it was a joke,” or in many instances, the person committing the microaggressive act is oblivious to its oppressive/offensive content.

Examples include: “Yeah, he’s black on the outside, but he’s white inside” (therefore suggesting being black on the inside is unacceptable); “there is only one race, the human race” (therefore failing to recognize and/or respect racial/cultural differences); “He only got into college because of affirmative action” (therefore he is not a credible student); “I’m not racist, I have black friends” (suggesting that simply befriending people of a different race cleanses you of racism); and dismissing people of color’s experiences within this racist culture (i.e. “why does he always have to bring up that he’s black, I’m white, you never hear me talking about it”).

February is Black History Month, and it is important that we look within us for our own racist/sexist/classist/ethocentrist/xenophobic tendencies. Here is an excellent video that illustrates microaggressions in action, and the harmful effects they have on those who experience them:

Most people do not consciously choose to be racist/sexist/classist/xenophobic, but have unfortunately grown up in a culture that systematically teaches it. Racism and discrimination will continue as long we keep kicking it down the road with our “politically correct” boot. Think about it. Better yet, talk about it.

40 Years After Roe: A New Conversation About Abortion


Posted on January 22, 2013 by

This month marks the 40th anniversary of Roe v. Wade, the Supreme Court decision that allowed women to obtain safe and legal abortions in all 50 states. Over the years many legislators have attempted to both overturn or create massive restriction to the law, in an attempt to make abortions illegal. This is still happening today, as you can see with the “Personhood” movement that has been strategically combing the country trying to pass legislation that would define “life” as beginning at conception, thus allowing making illegal contraceptives like the IUC, Plan B, medical procedures like in-vitro fertilization, and of course, all abortion care (even in the case of rape or incest). For many of us, we cannot remember a time in our lives when access to safe and legal abortion did not exist. While most counties in the country do not have abortion providers, with some orchestrated effort, many women find a way to travel to an abortion provider when they need their services.

We tend to think that abortion is a new procedure, since the famous Roe v. Wade decision was the groundbreaking law within the 20th century. But did you realize that abortion has been a procedure that women have been having for hundreds of years? In fact, the first anti-abortion laws were created to protect women from obtaining unsafe abortions, protecting them from unskilled physicians in 1821. It was not until 1873 that the Comstock law was passed, making the disbursement of information about contraception and abortion illegal. Did you get that? The Comstock laws made even talking about abortion and contraception illegal. Imagine that!

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So, 140 years after the Comstock laws banned women from learning about contraceptives and abortions, we are still having the same battle of politicizing the womb. Women still account for less than 20% of all politicians in our government. Those who make the laws are not the ones who suffer the ramifications, we see this over and over.

It is time for a new conversation to rise from the ashes of the polarized, dogmatic issue of “pro choice” or “pro life.” These are outdated modalities for talking about abortion, and completely dismiss the emotional, social, financial, and practical complexities of women’s experiences with abortion. One in three women within the U.S. will have had at least one abortion by age 45. These women are your family members, your colleagues, your friends, your neighbors, your socially networked communities. Every decision stems from a set of individual circumstances as unique as the woman herself. Abortion is not just an emotional buzzword. Abortion is medical procedure that one in three women will experience in her lifetime, and the perpetuation of the stigma does not reduce rates, only goes to ostracize, dehumanize and polarize us emotionally and intellectually. It’s time we have another discussion, it’s time we respect the women of our communities, and support legislation that allows for greater access to effective and affordable contraceptives that prevent unintended pregnancies (half of all pregnancies in the U.S. are currently unintended).

In the spirit of this new discussion, Planned Parenthood Federation of America (PPFA) has launched a new campaign called Not in Her Shoes that reminds us that abortion is not a black and white issue, but a complex decision that many women are faced to make. See the new campaign video below. We’re Planned Parenthood. We Care. No Matter What.

Deodorant and Breast Cancer: Does a Link Exist?


Posted on January 16, 2013 by

body odorMany of us have heard about the supposed link between aluminum deodorants and antiperspirants and breast cancer. While studies have continued to show mixed results in their findings, one should consider what has been documented. The National Cancer Institute published an article outlining its stance on the matter:

 

Aluminum-based compounds are used as the active ingredient in antiperspirants. These compounds form a temporary plug within the sweat duct that stops the flow of sweat to the skin’s surface. Some research suggests that aluminum-based compounds, which are applied frequently and left on the skin near the breast, may be absorbed by the skin and cause estrogen-like (hormonal) effects (3). Because estrogen has the ability to promote the growth of breast cancer cells, some scientists have suggested that the aluminum-based compounds in antiperspirants may contribute to the development of breast cancer (3).

Some research has focused on parabens, which are preservatives used in some deodorants and antiperspirants that have been shown to mimic the activity of estrogen in the body’s cells (4). Although parabens are used in many cosmetic, food, and pharmaceutical products, according to the FDA, most major brands of deodorants and antiperspirants in the United States do not currently contain parabens. Consumers can look at the ingredient label to determine if a deodorant or antiperspirant contains parabens. Parabens are usually easy to identify by name, such as methylparaben, propylparaben, butylparaben, or benzylparaben. The National Library of Medicine’s Household Products Database also has information about the ingredients used in most major brands of deodorants and antiperspirants.

The belief that parabens build up in breast tissue was supported by a 2004 study, which found parabens in 18 of 20 samples of tissue from human breast tumors (5). However, this study did not prove that parabens cause breast tumors (4). The authors of this study did not analyze healthy breast tissue or tissues from other areas of the body and did not demonstrate that parabens are found only in cancerous breast tissue (5). Furthermore, this research did not identify the source of the parabens and cannot establish that the buildup of parabens is due to the use of deodorants or antiperspirants.

More research is needed to specifically examine whether the use of deodorants or antiperspirants can cause the buildup of parabens and aluminum-based compounds in breast tissue. Additional research is also necessary to determine whether these chemicals can either alter the DNA in some cells or cause other breast cell changes that may lead to the development of breast cancer…*

*see original article for citations

While it is clear that further research needs to be conducted on the matter, many people would prefer to avoid deodorants with said chemicals. So, in a society that discriminates against people based on their looks and hygiene, how do we avoid smelling bad without the traditional deodorizers? Well, natural remedies exist:

Tom’s of Maine

Aubrey Organics

Miessence Certified Organic’s

And for the ultra-organic, simply try using a lime under your pits!

And of course, one can choose to abstain from masking their natural scent all together. I propose a hefty dose of kudos to those who go au natural, for despite the stigma of body odor, it is completely healthy and a natural expression of the human body.

We’re all concerned with eradicating breast cancer, and our continued dedication to scientific medical research and prevention education will surely take us there.