By: Cassandra Hedrick
Biphobia is the prejudice against bisexual, pansexual, queer individuals. It can come in many shapes and forms. Such as making assumptions about a person based on their sexuality or not believing them when they tell you their sexuality. The most common is suggesting they are not bi, just confused and will eventually just pick a side. This is known as bisexual erasure. What sets biphobia apart from homophobia is that it can come from both the straight and queer communities
One common thing that has been said about bisexuals is that all bi girls are just straight and all bi guys are just gay. One of the most common forms of biphobia I have experienced as a bisexual women is lesbian’s not wanting to date me. They are under the assumption that I don’t really like women, because I still like men. Men, however, have the opposite problem, where people insist they are just gay, but don’t want to admit it.
Aside from the basic “bi people are just confused” mentality, bisexual people are also often oversexualized, especially by straight men. I’ve had many experiences where men assume I want a threesome because I’m bisexual or say it’s hot that I make out with girls. Newsflash, buddy: if I’m making out with her, I’m not going home with you. Another way we are oversexualized is that we tend to be seen as slutty simply because we like both genders. This assumption makes people think bisexuals are more likely to cheat. However, just because I am attracted to both men and women, does not mean I am automatically attracted to everyone I see.
Bisexuals are just like everyone else, we just happen to be sexually attracted to more than one gender. We are not confused or greedy or slutty. We do not automatically all want threesomes. So, if you meet a bisexual, just treat them like a normal person and don’t make assumptions about them.