Category Archives: Men’s Health

SOS! Condoms, Please.


Posted on May 14, 2013 by

durexDurex recently launced an emergency condom delivery service. The iPhone app is called SOS Condoms, and it will deliver condoms to your door in an within one hour!

What kind of uniform would a condom delivery person wear? Head-to-toe rubber? A Durex-emblazened polo shirt announcing your urgent need to wrap it up? Actually, the delivery people are disguised as tourists, police officers, or pizza delivery people as to make the delivery more discreet.

How does it work? According the the app, you simply request a delivery, then you confirm your location. After that, you select the condoms you want, then wait for your delivery. You pay the delivery person once they arrive. Visit their website to see for yourself how it works. You can even vote for the next city to benefit from this delivery service (so far, Batman, Turkey is winning).

What do you think about this condom delivery service?

 

Fun Friday: Much Love for Mental Floss


Posted on May 3, 2013 by

I feel it my civic duty to introduce everyone I know to Mental Floss magazine (and website). Their tag line is Where Knowledge Junkies Get Their Fix and that really couldn’t be more accurate. This is the only magazine that I can’t bring myself to recycle when I’m done reading it. This article caught my attention yesterday so I wanted to share it with you: To Great Lengths: 7 Historic Cures for Impotence.

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April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month


Posted on April 10, 2013 by

Photo via The Dawn Center.

Photo via The Dawn Center.

Feronians, it’s April once again, which means it’s Sexual Assault Awareness Month. A big part of why SAAM exists is because we don’t often talk about sexual assault – for every Steubenville or Delhi case that involves a prosecution and spurs widespread discussion, there are thousands of assaults that pass by without comment, and without legal consequence.

On the one hand, this year seems like it’s had a lot of good conversations about this topic – and thinking back to 2001, when the national campaign officially began, I think that there’s a ton of progress that we can see. Watching commentators like Melissa Harris-Perry proclaim their support for rape survivors on air and hearing Australia’s Prime Minister Julia Gillard tell survivors ‘we hear you, you’re valued and you’re believed’ as Australia begins an inquiry into child sexual abuse is amazing, and isn’t something that I think we would have seen 12 years ago.

We’ve also seen new approaches in assault prevention that are moving away from the old framing – how potential victims of assault can protect themselves – to how to prevent assaults more broadly. These range from videos about how you should treat people who’ve passed out (don’t assault them, do get them a blanket) to broader campaigns on what bystanders can do. (Trigger warning – that video focuses on an evening leading up to an assault, and various ways that bystanders could have made a difference).

But I also know that these still aren’t the norm when it comes to talking about assault. When multiple CNN commentators spoke to how difficult life will be for two young men convicted of rape, without expressing any similar concern for their victim, many people got upset, but CNN never responded. Judges, educators and journalists still focus on how to change what women wear as a way to control men.

So, in honor of the strides we’ve made, and with an eye towards the work that still needs to be done, here’s some more information on activism opportunities this month, locally and nationally:

Activism / SAAM Events

Local
New College of Florida events (Sarasota)
Tampa events, and events throughout Florida

National
One Student – based out of the Tampa area, this group focuses on campus strategies for preventing sexual violence
Project Unbreakable (trigger warning – this project involves survivors reclaiming words that were used against them through art. It can be very powerful, but is a very emotionally charged space.)

Resources for survivors

National
RAINN
Survivor Project

Local
CARE (Charlotte)
Peace River Center (Hardee, Highlands & Polk)
The Dawn Center (Hernando)
Crisis Center of Tampa Bay (Hillsborough)
ACT (Lee)
Sunrise of Pasco County, Inc. (Pasco)
Suncoast Center (Pinellas)
Manatee Glens (Manatee)
SPARCC (Sarasota & DeSoto)

Surrogacy: Traditional vs. Gestational


Posted on March 12, 2013 by

surrogateSurrogacy is the process of carrying a child for someone else. Surrogates typically carry for couples who struggle with infertility, same-sex couples, and single people. There are two types of surrogacy: traditional and gestational.

A traditional surrogate (TS) is a woman who donates her eggs and carries the baby. This method is typically used when the intended mother (IM) can not use her own eggs. Many times, the intended father’s (IF) sperm is used and therefore, the child will have the genetic material of the surrogate and the intended father. The TS may become pregnant using IUI or IVF. If they choose to use the IVF process, they may extract more eggs to be fertilized than they can put back into her body and in that case, the embryos are usually frozen for later use. Typically, 1-3 embryos are transfered during IVF.

A gestational surrogate (GS) only carries the baby. The embryos transfered to her body might be fresh or frozen and have either 100%, 50%, or 0% of the intended parent’s (IP) genetic material. If the IM is not using her own eggs, an egg donor will be needed. Likewise, if the IF is not using his sperm, a sperm donor will be needed.

A surrogate must be a healthy woman, typically in her 20′s or early 30′s, who is willing to forgo all parental rights once the baby is born. Many surrogates already have children. Surrogates must undergo a battery of tests, both physical and psychological. She will have to inject herself with hormones, potentially endure invasive medical procedures, and of course, will have to be pregnant and deliver a baby or three. Once “matched” the surrogate and IP’s must draw up a contract, usually covering a litany of “what if” circumstances. There are attorneys who specialize in surrogacy. Having an iron clad contract drawn up by a skilled attorney and both parties should protect everyone involved. Some states like New York outlaw surrogacy, while others, like California, a “surro-friendly.” The process can be done privately or through an agency. Surrogates are usually compensated by the IPs, unless they are doing an altruistic surrogacy (usually family members). If you are interested in surrogacy, here are a few resources:

SurrogateMother.com is an online community for surrogates. The forum allows people to share their experiences, get educated about laws, health insurance, and processes, and may even help someone find their “match.” ALERT: be wary of scammers!

Resolve, The National Infertility Association covers various ways of building a family.

The Human Rights Campaign highlights state laws and legislation.

Even celebrities are not immune to the need for surrogacy. Nicole Kidman, Elton John, Elizabeth Banks, Sarah Jessica Parker, Giuliana Rancic, Ricky Martin, Michael Jackson, Neil Patrick Harris, and Dennis Quaid all had the help of a surrogate to build their family! You can also see a modern family being built with the help of a surrogate in the tv sitcom The New Normal.

Self Love is Safe Love: A History of Masturbation


Posted on March 5, 2013 by

Masturbation Doesn't Screw With Your Eyes, Really

Today we are re-running an oldie, but so very goodie: Fosgood’s history of masturbation post. Enjoy!

Masturbation has a long and colorful history.  According to some ancient Egyptian myths, the god Apsu created the Milky Way when he copulated with his fist. (This certainly gives star gazing a new twist!) Greek men and women both were known to masturbate and saw it as a gift from the gods. They believed the god Hermes taught his son Pan how to masturbate to help heal his broken heart when he was rejected by the nymph, Echo.

Some took it a bit too far: the philosopher Diogenes masturbated in public stating that no human activity should be seen so shameful that it must be done in private; his fellow citizens disagreed. The physician Galen felt that the retention of semen is dangerous and leads to sickness while Hippocrates cautioned that loss of excessive amounts of semen could result in physical damage, such as spinal cord deterioration.

Women in ancient Athens commonly purchased dildos known as olisbos, made of padded leather or wood. Greek men saw masturbation as a sign of poverty and if you had the money, you would pay someone to do it for you. A few centuries later, Roman boys were encouraged to deplete their sexual energies through philosophy and gymnastics, the Roman equivalent of a cold shower.

Many of the negative attitudes about masturbation are attributed to the Bible, but no mention of masturbation is found; actually, what is referred to is the story of Onan, who  protested God’s commandment to impregnate his brother’s widow, whom he did have sex with but pulled out and “spilled his seed.”  From here, things went way downhill. An early Christian bishop taught that masturbation was a worse sin than adultery, rape and incest because it was “unnatural” and a form of contraception. On and on the debate went for many centuries. By 1729 the “post-masturbation disease” came with a long list of serious and debilitating symptoms and charlatans made a killing selling cures for this dreaded affliction.

Things became so extreme that be the turn of the 20th century parents were encouraged to have their sons circumcised so as not to be aroused when cleaning their foreskins and daughters to have clitoridectomies (removal of the clitoris).  Parents were encouraged to place their children in straightjackets, or wrap the child in cold wet sheets and apply leeches to remove blood and congestion, or burn genital tissue with hot irons to make sure their child had no access to their genitals at night where the evil deed was likely to happen.

There has been much improvement in the attitudes about masturbation, but there is still a long way to go. On a regular basis, health educators today still hear very negative responses about masturbation. (Female masturbation, in particular, is often greeted with something like, “Eww, that’s nasty!”) I’ve frequently asked parent groups concerned about masturbation if they would prefer their child masturbate or be out having sex, possibly causing a pregnancy or contracting a STI. That gets them thinking – though many would just prefer their child have no sexual feelings at all.

We know masturbation is an important way for people to discover their own sexuality, prevent infection (as long as their hands are clean), and prevent a pregnancy – and we would sincerely hope it’s sex with someone you love!

Edit: Historical facts come from the Planned Parenthood Federation of America’s white paper publication, Masturbation, From Stigma to Sexual Health.

Health At Every Size


Posted on February 18, 2013 by

cyr7It’s always interesting to me how conversations about fitness get in February. Now that we’re past the initial barrage of New Year’s Resolutions, the once near-constant background noise of diet tips and cheap gym memberships has faded. However, as Firdaus said last month, our culture is really prone to cycles of yo-yo dieting: anyone who’s ever read a fashion magazine knows that more New! Hot! Amazing! diet ideas will be coming out soon as part of articles about swimsuit season.

Thankfully, not every discussion about health is part of this same cycle, especially since there’s a growing body of research that shows how trying to lose weight (even when you avoid fad diets) can end up making us less healthy. Health At Every Size is an approach that’s been gaining a lot of adherents and attention in recent years, and it focuses on exactly what the name says – how people of every size can pursue, develop and maintain their health.

Since it can be intimidating to go to the gym, find the right protein powder at the local health food store, or even find workout gear when your body falls outside the ‘gym rat’ mold, there are a number of resources available if you want to learn more:

  • Curvy Yoga: she trains fat-positive yoga instructors, and has listings of a number of size-friendly studios, and has recommendations for pose modifications.
  • Fat-friendly Health Professionals list: some doctors have issues when it comes to treating larger patients, so it can be helpful to see who other people have recommended.
  • Junonia: a site that sells a wide variety of plus-size women’s athletic gear. Sports bras that fit make an incredible difference!
  • The Fat Nutritionist: If you want to change your eating habits, but aren’t interested in dieting, Michelle is a nutritionist who posts about a lot of relevant topics and studies in this area.
  • Fit Fatties Forum: this is a Ning community where self-identified fat athletes share workout tips, encouragement, advice and community.
  • Dances with Fat: Ragen is a competitive dancer and fat activist who talks about a lot of relevant topics, including a great post on why she chooses Health at Every Size as her approach to fitness.

Everyone gets to decide what to do with their body – if you’re working on a plan to change your weight, and you’re happy with your approach, then more power to you!  But if you’re looking to focus on your health while leaving weight out of the equation, I hope that some of these resources will help, since it can be tough to find support when you’re bucking the weight loss juggernaut.

Sexual Behaviors: No Risk…Some Risk…Risky


Posted on February 13, 2013 by

An important part of my job as a sexual educator is informing people about the risks of various sexual activities and giving them the knowledge to make informed decisions. One of the ways to look at sexual behaviors is to place them on a spectrum ranging from no risk to high risk.

safe to unsafe postcardNO RISK
Activities that involve NO exchange of body fluids released from the genitals or skin to skin genital contact fit in this category. While saliva can spread the flu, a cold and mono, as long a neither party has oral herpes, you can kiss to your heart’s content. Mutual masturbation is about as safe as things can get and still involve genital contact. Good old humping, bumping, grinding, dirty dancing, anything with clothes is no risk. Showering together, erotic massage are acceptable as long as things don’t slip on over to other higher risk activities.

LOW RISK
Here’s where protected sexual activity comes into play. We’re talking oral, anal and vaginal intercourse. Think barriers. It could be a male or female condom. Plastic wrap or latex dental dam type protection for oral sex on vulva or anus. Slightly riskier is oral sex without a barrier.

HIGH RISK
Any vaginal or anal sex without a barrier puts you at high risk for STIs. Using drugs or alcohol can easily cloud your ability to make good decisions. Any activity that involves the possible exchange of blood is also right up there, including menstrual blood.

Any sexual activity can have some risks, but you can greatly reduce your chances of spreading or contracting an infection by knowing how to wrap it up, cover it up or just think of something else to do! (We’ve got plenty of suggestions for you!)

SANE: Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner, and How They Can Help You


Posted on February 12, 2013 by

SANE programAfter experiencing a sexual assault a hospital is often the first place the victim goes for help and medical services. Unfortunately, a hospital is not always well-equipped to provide services for a rape victim. Often they experience long wait times in a busy and crowded place, their trauma is seen as less important than other patient’s trauma, the staff is not sufficiently trained in the type of examination needed for forensic evidence, and worse, the staff may be unsupportive and even judgmental of the victim (from a report by the US Department of Justice.)

The SANE program was created to combat this issue and provide a safe and competent way for the sexual assault victim to receive the care they need. “Sexual Assault Nurse Examiners (SANE) are registered nurses who have completed specialized education and clinical preparation in the medical forensic care of the patient who has experienced sexual assault or abuse.” Planned Parenthood of Southwest & Central Florida operates a SANE program in our private health center in Manatee County, allowing rape victims to receive their care in a quiet, private environment. Typically, the person is referred to the SANE program by police or paramedics, and brought to the center. There, the nurse examiner provides the exam, which in general consists of “the medical forensic history, a detailed physical and emotional assessment, written and photographic documentation of injuries, collection and management of forensic samples, and providing emotional and social support and resources.” After the exam, the nurse also ensures the integrity of the samples is maintained so that they are admissible in court, and may testify in legal proceedings related to the examination.

Overall, the SANE program provides many services: professional forensic evidence collection, documentation, and preservation of evidence, screen for and prophylactically treat for sexually transmitted infection, evaluate for pregnancy risk and offer prevention, document and care for injuries, refer for followup medical care and counseling, and aid law enforcement in prosecution. All of this is done in a private, supportive and nonjudgmental environment by a professional who is trained to provide specialized care.

It should be noted that the program is geared towards prosecution of the rapist, and if the victim is not interested in filing an official report she will be encouraged to discuss her reasons with the nurse examiner. SANE often encourages the victim to go through the criminal justice process. For a lot of victims, going through the process of reporting the rape and dealing with the legal process is stressful and potentially harmful (personally or professionally), and so many rapes are not reported. Still, the SANE program is a more private and emotionally supportive way to receive medical care, pregnancy prophylaxis, STI testing, and other resources after a sexual assault.

Condom Ads from Around the World


Posted on February 11, 2013 by

National Condom Week begins on Valentine’s Day. To get you primed, I’ve pulled together these condom ads from around the world. (Some of them might take you a minute.) Enjoy!

Yowzers! Scotland…

condomads-scotland

 

Warm up in Mexico…
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Country unknown, but the message is universal, right?

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When in doubt, wrap your mini. Canada…
condomads-canada

Glow-in-the-dark like they do in Brazil…

condomads-brazilThe little buggers in Bangkok are confused…

condomads-bangkok Barely there. Austria…

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Screaming kids? No thanks. Australia…condomads-australia Prettiest condom ad goes to Malaysia!

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Strap it up! Use a condom this Valentine’s Day so you’re not spending St. Patrick’s Day wondering what that fire in your pants is all about.

P.S. I couldn’t find a single cool ad for female condoms. Do you know of one?

P.S.S. Condoms are always free at Planned Parenthood!