As we get older sex is further down on our priority list. With all the responsibilities that come with being an adult it becomes more difficult to find the time or desire to have sex. Here are 5 ways to help get your sexy back.
Tip #1 – Exercise. It is one of the most important things you can do to maintain or increase your libido. Physical activity helps to increase circulation, blood pressure, and maintain a healthy weight and hormone levels. Exercise can also help you look and feel better about your appearance, which for a lot of people can hold them back from wanting to be sexual with their partner if they are insecure about their body.
Tip #2 – Reduce Stress! If you are stressed you won’t be able to enjoy or want sex. Some people find meditation or breathing exercises helpful. Others find that making a to do list is helpful to quiet the noise in their heads or just taking a 10 minute walk to find some quiet time. Our brain is our biggest sex organ and if we are worried about chores, bills, work, the kids, etc., we can’t give our undivided attention to our partner or the pleasure we should be experiencing. Sex on average for most couples is 12-18 minutes from start to finish. As busy as we all are, we can find 12-18 minutes to connect with our partners, but we have to make it a priority not a chore.
Tip #3 – Spice Things Up. If sex has become a little boring try to wear something that makes you feel sexy or turns your partner on. Buy a sexuality book that gives you new ideas or suggestions and talk to your partner about trying them out. You can also go away for a few days to just focus on each other. Exploring activities that take you out of your element like snorkeling, hiking, skydiving, etc. can help you reconnect and enjoy each other’s company.
Tip #4 – Try aphrodisiacs. Many people claim that foods like oysters, chocolate, and spicy foods can increase your libido. It is hard to know if they actually increase the libido or whether there is a placebo effect from thinking they make a difference. Either way, if it works then by all means eat them.
Tip #5 – Ditch the cigarettes! We all know that cigarettes are bad for us, but did you know they can actually decrease your libido? This is just another reason to find a way to quit cigarettes. Your sex life and partner will thank you.