Tag Archives: STIs

Informing Your Partner of Your Positive STI Result


Posted on May 2, 2013 by

Life can present you with many challenging situations. One of the most difficult scenarios is what to say to a current or past partner when you’ve received a positive STI test result. You want to do the right thing, but what to say, when to say it, and how to say it can seem overwhelming. The website  So They Can Know offers a variety of options to help facilitate the process, although nothing can really remove all the embarrassment and stigma that one might feel.

If you can’t manage a face-to-face conversation, one option is to call them. For some, this is the easiest, most direct approach so they can gauge how the person reacts and then react accordingly. This is one of the least impersonal and most courageous route to take, but certainly not for the faint of heart.

Others cannot even imagine having to speak to a former or current partner in person or by phone so tips on e-mailing or texting are also offered by the folks at So They Can Know.

Another option is to send an anonymous e-card from a company called inSPOT. You can find a variety of cards on their website.

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Whatever option you pick, be assured that you are doing the adult, responsible thing, difficult as it may be. Wouldn’t you want to know?

Fun Friday: Sex Ed Quiz


Posted on April 26, 2013 by

quizGYT is just around the corner so we thought we’d get you thinking by testing your knowledge of sex ed and STIs. Follow this link, take the quiz, and post your score in our comments section. It’s only 8 questions long so it won’t take long. I got a perfect score, but then again, I’m a sex educator. Have a safe and fun weekend!

 

 

Retro STI Posters: Beware of Prostitution!


Posted on April 18, 2013 by

While browsing the net recently I ran across a barrage of anti-prostitution advertisements produced by the American Social Hygiene Association, an organization that sought to reduce venereal diseases (AKA sexually transmitted infections), reduce prostitution, and educate people about sex. These advertisements were produced in the early part of the 20th century, and were targeted at men, specifically in the military. They seem to frame women as infected succubus’s, sure to tempt pure young men into bed so they can spread their venereal diseases and ruin lives. Certainly there is no reference to how the women contract it (um, from the males they sleep with); it’s almost like prostitutes are dirty temptresses born infectious. Though I support the reduction of sexually transmitted infections (hello, condoms), these advertisements are obnoxiously one-sided.

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Links We Love: Wednesday Edition


Posted on February 27, 2013 by

Copyright Oregon Food Bank.

Copyright Oregon Food Bank.

Hello, Feronians! We’ve made it to the hump day (pun not intended, but amusing nonetheless).

Here’s some of the interesting links we’ve found in sex, love, and society:

What have you been reading lately?

New STI Fact Sheet from CDC – A $16 Billion Price Tag


Posted on February 21, 2013 by

This month the Centers for Disease Control published its latest report on the incidence, prevalence, and cost of STIs in the US. Even I was shaking my head. The report states that there are approximately 20 million new infections each year costing the American health care system $16 BILLION in direct medical costs alone. While most STIs will not cause physical harm if diagnosed and treated early, some have the potential to cause severe health issues. This is a dollar amount only. What about the emotional cost? How are relationships or potential relationships affected? Priceless.

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Nearly 50% of the new cases are found in people between 15 and 24, though this age group accounts for only 25% of the sexually active population. STIs don’t show much of a gender preference. Women have a slight edge at 51% of new cases compared to 49% in men. I always wonder about all of the people who have not been tested and have no symptoms.

What to do? More education, easier access to testing, more free testing available, better communication between partners, condom promotion? It must be a cultural shift that includes all of the above. To read the entire report click here.

Please don’t assume you are not at risk because you’ve only had one partner, always use a condom, or have never had a symptom. To make an appointment for an STI check visit us at Planned Parenthood.

The Female Condom: One Step Forward for Feminism, One Step Back for Pleasure


Posted on February 19, 2013 by

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For years I have been distributing Female Condoms (also known as FC) throughout our health centers, and while I understand they are about 95% effective at preventing pregnancy if used properly every time, I’d never used one myself. I’ve pulled them out of their packaging, I’ve touched them, squeezed them, and demonstrated how they work using a model. The Feronia Project has advocated for its ability to empower females to take charge by using the FC, but in my vagina…huh?

So, in the spirit of Valentine ’s Day romance, my partner and I decided to pop in a FC and take it for a spin. I’d used the Nuva Ring in the past, so I was prepared for the way it might feel to have a flexible plastic ring inside my vagina during sex, but was unprepared for how it felt to have that ring connected to a plastic baggie, connected to a second ring that remained around the vulva. In a word: ouch.

For me, the female condom was extremely uncomfortable and problematic. Though an excessive amount of lube was used, it didn’t change the fact that I felt like it would tear at any moment, and I had to hold it in place externally so that it didn’t slip inside of me. The external ring that holds the FC open around the vaginal opening was extremely uncomfortable to me, pinching and rubbing hard against my very sensitive labia. Agh!

For him, it was very uncomfortable as well. I asked him to rate it like a homework assignment, and he gave it a full “C.” He was wary of it coming out, and the plastic baggie sound/feel was hardly arousing. So, for us, the male condom wins.

We lasted a full minute before we had to take it out and replace it with a male condom.  With proper communication, we were able to navigate the situation with ease and a little humor, without dampening the night’s appeal.

I support the idea of the female condom whole-heartedly! It’s important that females are able to have a barrier contraceptive method to protect them from sexually transmitted infections and pregnancy, just as males do. However, something a little softer, smoother, and less baggie-like might feel more appealing (for us anyway).

Don’t just take my word for it! Everybody is different. Every partnership is different. It’s most important that you find the best method for YOU! Readers, have YOU used a female condom?

Sexual Behaviors: No Risk…Some Risk…Risky


Posted on February 13, 2013 by

An important part of my job as a sexual educator is informing people about the risks of various sexual activities and giving them the knowledge to make informed decisions. One of the ways to look at sexual behaviors is to place them on a spectrum ranging from no risk to high risk.

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Activities that involve NO exchange of body fluids released from the genitals or skin to skin genital contact fit in this category. While saliva can spread the flu, a cold and mono, as long a neither party has oral herpes, you can kiss to your heart’s content. Mutual masturbation is about as safe as things can get and still involve genital contact. Good old humping, bumping, grinding, dirty dancing, anything with clothes is no risk. Showering together, erotic massage are acceptable as long as things don’t slip on over to other higher risk activities.

LOW RISK
Here’s where protected sexual activity comes into play. We’re talking oral, anal and vaginal intercourse. Think barriers. It could be a male or female condom. Plastic wrap or latex dental dam type protection for oral sex on vulva or anus. Slightly riskier is oral sex without a barrier.

HIGH RISK
Any vaginal or anal sex without a barrier puts you at high risk for STIs. Using drugs or alcohol can easily cloud your ability to make good decisions. Any activity that involves the possible exchange of blood is also right up there, including menstrual blood.

Any sexual activity can have some risks, but you can greatly reduce your chances of spreading or contracting an infection by knowing how to wrap it up, cover it up or just think of something else to do! (We’ve got plenty of suggestions for you!)

SANE: Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner, and How They Can Help You


Posted on February 12, 2013 by

SANE programAfter experiencing a sexual assault a hospital is often the first place the victim goes for help and medical services. Unfortunately, a hospital is not always well-equipped to provide services for a rape victim. Often they experience long wait times in a busy and crowded place, their trauma is seen as less important than other patient’s trauma, the staff is not sufficiently trained in the type of examination needed for forensic evidence, and worse, the staff may be unsupportive and even judgmental of the victim (from a report by the US Department of Justice.)

The SANE program was created to combat this issue and provide a safe and competent way for the sexual assault victim to receive the care they need. “Sexual Assault Nurse Examiners (SANE) are registered nurses who have completed specialized education and clinical preparation in the medical forensic care of the patient who has experienced sexual assault or abuse.” Planned Parenthood of Southwest & Central Florida operates a SANE program in our private health center in Manatee County, allowing rape victims to receive their care in a quiet, private environment. Typically, the person is referred to the SANE program by police or paramedics, and brought to the center. There, the nurse examiner provides the exam, which in general consists of “the medical forensic history, a detailed physical and emotional assessment, written and photographic documentation of injuries, collection and management of forensic samples, and providing emotional and social support and resources.” After the exam, the nurse also ensures the integrity of the samples is maintained so that they are admissible in court, and may testify in legal proceedings related to the examination.

Overall, the SANE program provides many services: professional forensic evidence collection, documentation, and preservation of evidence, screen for and prophylactically treat for sexually transmitted infection, evaluate for pregnancy risk and offer prevention, document and care for injuries, refer for followup medical care and counseling, and aid law enforcement in prosecution. All of this is done in a private, supportive and nonjudgmental environment by a professional who is trained to provide specialized care.

It should be noted that the program is geared towards prosecution of the rapist, and if the victim is not interested in filing an official report she will be encouraged to discuss her reasons with the nurse examiner. SANE often encourages the victim to go through the criminal justice process. For a lot of victims, going through the process of reporting the rape and dealing with the legal process is stressful and potentially harmful (personally or professionally), and so many rapes are not reported. Still, the SANE program is a more private and emotionally supportive way to receive medical care, pregnancy prophylaxis, STI testing, and other resources after a sexual assault.

Condom Ads from Around the World


Posted on February 11, 2013 by

National Condom Week begins on Valentine’s Day. To get you primed, I’ve pulled together these condom ads from around the world. (Some of them might take you a minute.) Enjoy!

Yowzers! Scotland…

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Warm up in Mexico…
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Country unknown, but the message is universal, right?

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When in doubt, wrap your mini. Canada…
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Glow-in-the-dark like they do in Brazil…

condomads-brazilThe little buggers in Bangkok are confused…

condomads-bangkok Barely there. Austria…

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Screaming kids? No thanks. Australia…condomads-australia Prettiest condom ad goes to Malaysia!

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Strap it up! Use a condom this Valentine’s Day so you’re not spending St. Patrick’s Day wondering what that fire in your pants is all about.

P.S. I couldn’t find a single cool ad for female condoms. Do you know of one?

P.S.S. Condoms are always free at Planned Parenthood!

Cheating, and What Comes After


Posted on January 24, 2013 by

CheatingThere are a number of unpleasant realities about relationships, and one of them is that sometimes people end up cheating. As painful, heart-wrenching and explosive as it is when this comes to light, that’s only part of the story. Once the emotional dust settles, there are some tough emotional decisions to make, and they’re not always as straightforward as just DTMFA.

  • First and foremost, you’ll want to get tested for STIs to see what your status is, and take care of your health.
  • If you’re trying to figure out how to move forward in your relationship, make sure that you’re taking care of yourself and working with your partner to set up realistic expectations and boundaries, so that there’s room to rebuild trust. It’s a difficult, slow process, but it is possible if you’re both motivated.
  • If you decide that the best decision is to end things with your partner, you can work to minimize any additional pain by surrounding yourself with supportive people – friends, family, a good therapist, or all of the above – and asking for help with the practical side of splitting up, since it can be emotionally hard to advocate for yourself when you’ve just been through the wringer.

And finally, whether you’ve been cheated on, or you were the one who cheated, know that you’re not alone in working to get through this. There are a lot of couples who’ve successfully stayed together after infidelity. However, since it’s not the kind of topic that comes up in casual conversation, it can seem like everyone breaks up after someone’s been unfaithful. You and your partner need to find out what’s right for you.