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“Mommy, What’s a Pocketbook?”


Posted on May 13, 2013 by

Sexuality is the #1 topic that parents dread discussing or acknowledging with their kids. I understand and sympathize with parents who have a difficult time with the subject, but they need to take a deep breath and get over it. The health, safety, and well-being of your child or children is more important than your temporary discomfort in addressing this topic. I was recently at a large dinner party and one of the couples was talking with another couple and telling them how I helped them overcome that fear. They realized it was something they had to do because they love their children. The information could potentially help protect their two children from adult and child predators. More schools are implementing the use of anatomically correct names in their ‘Stranger Danger’ and abuse prevention programs for this very reason.

strangerdangerAccording to the National Sexual Violence Resource Center (NSVRC), teaching children anatomically correct terms, age-appropriately, promotes positive body image, self-confidence, and parent-child communication; discourages, perpetrators; and, in the event of abuse, helps children and adults navigate the disclosure and forensic interview process. Many of us are given funny names for our genitals at a very young age (i.e. Pocketbook, Taco, Va JayJay, Wiener, Johnson) and taught directly or indirectly that our “private area” should not be discussed. Some of us had very little information and a lot of misinformation growing up. This leads to adults who then feel uncomfortable and embarrassed discussing age-appropriate sexuality education with their children and perpetuate the idea that anything dealing with “down there” is shameful, dirty, or secret. It creates confusion for the child and sends a clear message that if and when they have questions or concerns, they should not go to their parents or trusted adult. I know the idea of your child one day being sexually active (or even asking challenging sexuality questions) is scary, but when it does happen, think about the answers to the following questions:

1) Don’t you want them to feel good about it and know how to protect their bodies?

2) Would you want them to get their questions answered by you or random websites on the internet, or friends?

Click here for helpful resources on how to talk to your kids about sex.

The Self-Cleaning Vagina – Discharging the Myths of Discharge


Posted on March 11, 2013 by

Today we are recycling one of our most popular posts. Read on and see why . . . 

botticelli-venus-400x400Recently, I asked the staff at one of our health centers for a story that highlighted a myth about vaginas. They cited a recent story in which a patient came in complaining of vaginal discharge and, once diagnosed with a yeast infection, was convinced it was because she worked in a bakery. Yeast … around you … yes, we get the idea. But no, unless one places a baked good into the vagina, the chances the infection came from a yeasty treat are null and void.

We might chuckle a little at the sticker shock of such seemingly silly logic, but we realize the societal truth that vaginal discharge, along with many other reproductive health issues, is not usually a hot topic in people’s everyday lives. There is a lot of shame and embarrassment surrounding vaginal care, so let me clear a few things up.

Having worked for Planned Parenthood for close to four years, here are a few things I wish I could scream from the rooftops for every vagina-carrying human to hear:

1. Douching is bad for you and can cause the symptoms you’re trying to avoid!

We’ve all seen the boxes of Summer’s Eve tucked between the maxi-pads and pregnancy tests on our local pharmacy shelves. I’ve even seen advertisements that suggest vaginal douching will give a woman the confidence she needs to ask for a raise at work (what the hell?) I’ve heard women say their mothers douched, so they do it themselves. They’ve heard it makes them clean, or that it makes them smell good (with blatant implication that the natural odor is foul). Some do it every so often, while others integrate it into their sexual health routine more frequently. Regardless of the frequency of douching, please do yourself a favor and STOP! Douching, specifically with any agents that contain a fragrance, can drastically alter the natural balance of vaginal flora and acidity needed to self-regulate. Women who douche frequently are more susceptible to vaginal irritation, bacterial vaginosis, STIs, yeast infection or Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID). Same can be true for scented soaps and tampons … your temple smells fine the way it is, keep the perfumes outta there!

(**In some rare instances a medical professional may advise douching with water or other banal substance, in which case err on the side of your trusted health care advisor).

2. Healthy vaginas do not smell like fish or any other aquatic sea life!

There is a cultural myth that vaginas smell bad, specifically “fishy.” This myth has been further circulated within our society by some pretty off-color jokes (a blind man and a fish market…) which, while funny to those telling it, can often lead to reinforcing insecurities within women about their bodies. In a culture as dually sexually repressed and exploited as ours, it’s no wonder that this notion reigns “true” in the public arena. I can’t think of anyone else beside my P.P. family who would go toe to toe to argue the damaging ramifications of such a sexist joke as the punch line is delivered, so how else do we stop these dangerous lies from spreading? My thought is: education.

3. Vaginas are independent: When left alone they can clean and manage themselves just fine! 

The Vagina, as stated, is a self-sustaining organ that naturally produces bacteria and acids that cleans itself. It also produces a clear or whitish, generally odorless (sometimes acidic), itchless discharge that can increase and decrease in quantity as the menstrual cycle (28 days) changes. If you’re on a hormonal birth control method, your discharge may differ when on it from your non-hormonal cycles, as ovulation (releasing of the egg from the ovary) may increase discharge for a few days. Sexual arousal can also increase vaginal discharge, as your vagina naturally lubricates (though adding a fragrance-free water-based lubricant can help prevent tearing of condoms).

4. At the end of 6-8 hours, take out your tampon!

Too often a woman will come into our health centers complaining about a terrible vaginal odor, only to have the clinician remove days, weeks, or even months old tampon remnants. We call these “impacted tampons,” and they have the potential for some serious consequences, such as incredible odor (we sometimes have to close down the exam room for the day afterward), infection (bacterial vaginosis or pelvic inflammatory disease), toxic shock, or even death! It is so critical to take your tampons out within the time suggested for use on the package label, but also easy to ignore. Here’s a tip: confirm all tampons are out at the end of your period by placing your finger inside your canal and checking!

5. If your vagina smells abnormal, has colored or thick discharge, itches, or is generally out of the norm, head into Planned Parenthood!

So many times we see clients who incorrectly self-diagnose vaginal symptoms, and end up further irritating their condition, or wasting time and money on incorrect treatments. If I had a dollar for every time over-the-counter yeast medication was used on bacterial vaginosis, I’d create a P.S.A. about this topic and launch it during the Super Bowl. Delaying proper treatment of vaginal infections or sexually transmitted infections does not improve your health or save you money. Contrary, it can worsen temporary symptoms or cause irreversible damage to reproductive organs. Often clinicians can write a prescription that has multiple refills, if you are a person with chronic susceptibility to a specific infection, so you don’t have to pay for every visit to the health center (this rule is very specific to your condition, your health history, and the medical discretion of the clinician).

Here are some helpful links to some info about common vaginal infections, and as always, WE’RE HERE FOR YOU!

Your Three Holes: Urethra, Vagina, and Anus


Posted on February 26, 2013 by

There’s a lot of confusion about what exactly is ‘down there’. Part of the reason it’s confusing is because you can’t see it, the other part is because no one really talks about it. So, let’s learn!

First, a few terms.

  1. Vulva – all of the external parts (labia majora, labia minora, clitoris, urethral opening)
  2. Vagina – internal canal; place of penis/vagina intercourse, where period exits body, where tampon can be worn
  3. Perineum – skin between vaginal opening and anus
  4. Anus – end of large intestine; where feces exits body

See all the parts on this diagram:

vulva

 

If you sit down to pee, it looks as though urine is coming from the vagina, but it isn’t. To see the urethral opening you have to open the skin of the labia minora. It is a tiny hole just above the vaginal opening. The anus is an inch or two below the vaginal opening, separated by the skin of the perineum.

The urethra is where urinary tract infections occur. Urinating when you need to and after sex will help you to not get a UTI. Yeast infections mainly occur in the vagina. After a bowel movement, don’t wipe towards the vagina because fecal bacteria can cause vaginal infections. You know you should use condoms, but did you know that you should not take the same condom from anal sex to vaginal sex? That’s right, bacteria again.

Now as for what all those sexual parts do, that’s another post entirely.

* A Note About Intersex:

“nature presents us with sex anatomy spectrums. Breasts, penises, clitorises, scrotums, labia, gonads—all of these vary in size and shape and morphology. So-called “sex” chromosomes can vary quite a bit, too. But in human cultures, sex categories get simplified into male, female, and sometimes intersex, in order to simplify social interactions, express what we know and feel, and maintain order.”

 

Links We Love in Sex & Health: Thursday Edition


Posted on February 7, 2013 by

Brendon Ayanbadejo, Feronia's new hero. Photo copyright Keith Allison.

Brendon Ayanbadejo, Feronia’s new hero. Photo copyright Keith Allison.

Happy Thursday, Feronians! We’re sharing some of the best links in love and sex that we’ve found around the web:

What have you seen lately that’s interesting in love and sex? We’d love to hear about it! And do you love Brendon Ayanbadejo or what?

The Self-Cleaning Vagina – Discharging the Myths of Discharge


Posted on April 25, 2012 by

Recently, I asked the staff at one of our health centers for a story that highlighted a myth about vaginas. They cited a recent story in which a patient came in complaining of vaginal discharge and, once diagnosed with a yeast infection, was convinced it was because she worked in a bakery. Yeast … around you … yes, we get the idea. But no, unless one places a baked good into the vagina, the chances the infection came from a yeasty treat are null and void.

We might chuckle a little at the sticker shock of such seemingly silly logic, but we realize the societal truth that vaginal discharge, along with many other reproductive health issues, is not usually a hot topic in people’s everyday lives. There is a lot of shame and embarrassment surrounding vaginal care, so let me clear a few things up.

Having worked for Planned Parenthood for close to four years, here are a few things I wish I could scream from the rooftops for every vagina-carrying human to hear:

1. Douching is bad for you and can cause the symptoms you’re trying to avoid!

We’ve all seen the boxes of Summer’s Eve tucked between the maxi-pads and pregnancy tests on our local pharmacy shelves. I’ve even seen advertisements that suggest vaginal douching will give a woman the confidence she needs to ask for a raise at work (what the hell?) I’ve heard women say their mothers douched, so they do it themselves. They’ve heard it makes them clean, or that it makes them smell good (with blatant implication that the natural odor is foul). Some do it every so often, while others integrate it into their sexual health routine more frequently. Regardless of the frequency of douching, please do yourself a favor and STOP! Douching, specifically with any agents that contain a fragrance, can drastically alter the natural balance of vaginal flora and acidity needed to self-regulate. Women who douche frequently are more susceptible to vaginal irritation, bacterial vaginosis, STIs, yeast infection or Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID). Same can be true for scented soaps and tampons … your temple smells fine the way it is, keep the perfumes outta there!

(**In some rare instances a medical professional may advise douching with water or other banal substance, in which case err on the side of your trusted health care advisor).

2. Healthy vaginas do not smell like fish or any other aquatic sea life!

There is a cultural myth that vaginas smell bad, specifically “fishy.” This myth has been further circulated within our society by some pretty off-color jokes (a blind man and a fish market…) which, while funny to those telling it, can often lead to reinforcing insecurities within women about their bodies. In a culture as dually sexually repressed and exploited as ours, it’s no wonder that this notion reigns “true” in the public arena. I can’t think of anyone else beside my P.P. family who would go toe to toe to argue the damaging ramifications of such a sexist joke as the punch line is delivered, so how else do we stop these dangerous lies from spreading? My thought is: education.

3. Vaginas are independent: When left alone they can clean and manage themselves just fine! 

The Vagina, as stated, is a self-sustaining organ that naturally produces bacteria and acids that cleans itself. It also produces a clear or whitish, generally odorless (sometimes acidic), itchless discharge that can increase and decrease in quantity as the menstrual cycle (28 days) changes. If you’re on a hormonal birth control method, your discharge may differ when on it from your non-hormonal cycles, as ovulation (releasing of the egg from the ovary) may increase discharge for a few days. Sexual arousal can also increase vaginal discharge, as your vagina naturally lubricates (though adding a fragrance-free water-based lubricant can help prevent tearing of condoms).

4. At the end of 6-8 hours, take out your tampon!

Too often a woman will come into our health centers complaining about a terrible vaginal odor, only to have the clinician remove days, weeks, or even months old tampon remnants. We call these “impacted tampons,” and they have the potential for some serious consequences, such as incredible odor (we sometimes have to close down the exam room for the day afterward), infection (bacterial vaginosis or pelvic inflammatory disease), toxic shock, or even death! It is so critical to take your tampons out within the time suggested for use on the package label, but also easy to ignore. Here’s a tip: confirm all tampons are out at the end of your period by placing your finger inside your canal and checking!

5. If your vagina smells abnormal, has colored or thick discharge, itches, or is generally out of the norm, head into Planned Parenthood!

So many times we see clients who incorrectly self-diagnose vaginal symptoms, and end up further irritating their condition, or wasting time and money on incorrect treatments. If I had a dollar for every time over-the-counter yeast medication was used on bacterial vaginosis, I’d create a P.S.A. about this topic and launch it during the Super Bowl. Delaying proper treatment of vaginal infections or sexually transmitted infections does not improve your health or save you money. Contrary, it can worsen temporary symptoms or cause irreversible damage to reproductive organs. Often clinicians can write a prescription that has multiple refills, if you are a person with chronic susceptibility to a specific infection, so you don’t have to pay for every visit to the health center (this rule is very specific to your condition, your health history, and the medical discretion of the clinician).

Here are some helpful links to some info about common vaginal infections, and as always, WE’RE HERE FOR YOU!